I am getting so unbelivably sick of people whining and complaining about the insignifcant things that don’t really matter, or worse yet complaining about things they can change. We choose how we live our lives, we choose how good, or bad our lives can and will be. We choose our outlook on life, its not always easy, I know, but you are the only one that has the ability to control how your life is ultimately going to be, so you can choose to whine about your life or you change your life, again, easier said then done I know.
I think one of my biggest pet peves are people who watch TV Shows and whine and complain when it does not go exactly the way they wanted (I have been guilty of this my self, but am working on changing that) if you do not like the way a particular show is going, either except that you are not always going to get things your way, or stop watching, its that simple, I know but they you would not have anything to complain about, but is that really a good life, the life that you want to lead?
Think about it this way, how do you want people to remember you? Do want them to remember you as the person that was never happy about anything in life or do you want them to remember you as a person who could take the worst possible scenarios in life and turn them around?
In the last year, I have been faced with the fact that I may have a condition that would one day kill me (luckily we later found this to not be true) someone I know was faced with the possibility that her daughter, less then a year old may not make it to see her first birthday(this child is now doing well, thriving really) I have been faced with many other personal issues (that are to personal to mention here) and yet through it all I chose to believe that everything was going to be alright.
I am going to use a line from Dr Phil “What you fear you create” meaning if you fear something to much. ultimately it probably will happen I chose to believe everything was going to be okay, and now, I am more grateful and happy with life then at any other point in my life.
I may be single, but I am not with out a Valentine, in fact I have two, my nieces, Malia 4yrs and Haley 8mnths, they maybe 300+ miles away, but they still hold a very special place in my heart. I am not sure why it has the label of “Singles awareness day” as if that is a negative thing, I certainly don’t see it that way, I am thrilled for all my friends and family that have seem to have found “The one” but for me, I am very happy it just being me. This blog is short and sweet, I hope all of my readers, in a relationship or single have a wonderful Valentine’s Day
Again the verdict came down today from an Italian Superior Court, Amanda Knox, presumed murderer of her former British Roommate Meredith Kertcher; found Guilty, not the first, not the second but the third time, now if this had take place in America, well it wouldn’t have cause we have thing called Double Jeopardy, no such luck for Knox in the Italian Judicial system (if they can call it that)
The supposed DNA Evidence used to put Amanda in Jail, was found to be contaminated, that alone in America, would have set her free, guilty or not, but again, not in Italy, apparently there once they have decided who they want the criminal to be, that is it, all other suspects are ruled out, no matter how damming the evidence, now, am I sticking up for Amanda just because she is an American, or just because she is from Washington like my self, NO, I am sticking up for her because she a truly innocent person, was her DNA on the knife supposedly used to kill Meredith, well of course it was, she used, in the kitchen of her now ex-boy friends house.
I have watched perhaps every interview Amanda has given and not once has she wavered in her side of the story, details have not changed her reaction has not changed, her want to apologize to Meredith’s Family has not changed, nothing has changed, these are all signs of an innocent person, who, I would not blame if she never wanted to go back to Italy ever again, I sure don’t.
One year later, One year after having lost 26 innocent soles, one year afar a senseless tragedy that never should have happened, one year since 26 moms, 26 dads, 26, brothers/sisters, 26 grandfather, 26 grandmothers, countless cousins, aunts, uncles, friends and classmates lost experienced a tragedy. No one should ever have to experience, especially when some of the victims left behind are still so young and innocent, a part of that innocence no doubt gone forever. And Today we learn of another school shooting that took another life.
People say we don’t need gun control, would like for those people to go look the families of Sand Hook Elementary and those of the school shooting in Colorado of this past Friday in the eye and say “I am sorry your child is dead but nah we don’t need gun control in this country, my rights are far more important then the life of your precious children” That is the vibe I have gotten from people over this last year, Oh and for those of you who are going to bring up the debate of the wars America has entered, did you know that more people have been killed and/or injured in shootings here at home (in the US) then in the last two wars combined, there’s some food for thought for ya, And to those of you who are on your soap box about not wanting to lose your gun rights, they are not trying to take you guns, they are just trying to make this a safer country to live in.
As I hear the roar of an ambulance pass down the busy highway just off my street, I had to pause for minute. All to often Law Enforcement, Firefighters and other public service aids get ripped apart by my fellow American’s. I, am not one of those people, for I have know at least one person in each of the risky job fields listed above. Like all of us they are just doing their jobs to the best of their abilities, and just like us, they are human and have to work with in a certain protocol, I challenge every single person out there who disgraces these people to walk in their shoes for just one day, perhaps your point of view would change, but then again, perhaps not, some people are wrapped up in them selfs to be able to see the daily struggles and sacrifices of those around them.
Through out all my life, people have known, they have know there is something a little different about me, in school, kids teased me, in some work situations co-workers treated me like I was an univalent, society as a whole wants to put me and others like me in this little box, they want to label us, and measure what we are capable of based upon what they “know” about our condition(s)
When I was about five or six years old I was diagnosed with mild cerebral Palsy from there I got treated differently, I know some teachers tried their best to not make it know that I needed extra help and at the time I honestly did not realize it, was not until I was an adult (the ultimate lesson in hindsight can be 20/20) Now, for the first time in my life, there is some one who is seeing me through unfiltered eyes, my niece, Malia, who is four, she just sees me as her auntie, the person that plays with her, the person that reads to her, the person that makes her giggle that cute little giggle she’s had all her life. I may not be perfect, far from it, but its nice to have some one in my life who sees me with out the flaws that others tend to view me with
Okay something has been bothering me for the last four years, and I have to get off my chest. Aunties and Uncles are just as important in a child’s life as grandparents, great-grandparents, Godparents, brothers, sisters, and cousins. And yet all things the related to a child’s extended family seem to be geared towards the family members mentioned above, now coming from a large family I know how important having a good extended support system is, and I am not trying to diminish the importance of the rolls of the other members of the family.
However, I am getting frustrated of having endless cards. clothes and picture frames that are perfect for other members of the extended family to give to the children and there is next to nothing for aunts and uncles. I am an Auntie to two of the most wonderful little girls you’d ever want to meet (though I am sure all aunties and uncles would say that) I would love nothing more then to be able to go and get a few picture frames and cards (Birthday, Halloween Christmas…) that say either “Niece” or “Auntie” on them, but they are nowhere to be found, or stores have them and there is only one or two to pick from, tough when you are buying for multiple children.
I know I can special order picture frames and such, but I just do not feel I should have to I don’t get why companies do not make these products