The Right Of Freedom Of Speech Does Not Give You The Right To Speak In Hate

Earlier today it was announced that Seattle Mariners Suspended catcher Steve Clevenger with out pay for the rest of the season after hateful tweets were sent out from Clevenger’s account, these tweets were aimed towards Preside Obama and the black community as a whole. Below are tweets sent out by the Mariner’s catcher as well as an apology, I have copied all this content from


Clevenger’s Tweet’s


“Black people beating whites when a thug got shot holding a gun by a black police officer,” one of the tweets said, according to Seattle radio station KOMO reporter Jon Humbert, who published screen-grab images of Clevenger’s account, which was set to private Thursday night. “Haha s— cracks me up! Keep kneeling for the Anthem!”

Clevenger’s Apology:

“I grew up on the streets of Baltimore, a city I love to this very day,” Clevenger said. “I grew up in a very culturally diverse area of America and I am very proud to come from there. I am also proud that my inner circle of friends has never been defined by race but by the content of their character. Any former teammate or anyone who has met me can attest to this and I pride myself on not being a judgemental person. I just ask that the public not judge me because of an ill worded tweet.”

“I do believe that supporting our First Amendment rights and supporting local law enforcement are not mutually exclusive. With everything going on in the world I really just want what is best for everyone regardless of who they are. I like many Americans are frustrated by a lot of things in the world and I would like to be a part of the dialogue moving forward to make this a better world for everyone.

“I once again apologize to anyone who was offended today and I just ask you not judge me off of a social media posting. Thank you and God bless everyone.”

Now, here is where I take issue, and where my blog got its title. I fully support our right to free speech,what I do not, will not and will never support, is to use that right as way to support a momentary lapse of judgement, or as a way to support hate speech in any way shape or form. There are ways to get our thoughts, feeling and aggressions out with out using hate speech, now a days we, adults want children to be more respectful of others. How can we possibly expect them to do that when we, adults in their lives, don’t do it our selfs. You don’t think they hear and see everything you do, your wrong children are so intuitive, and are such good listeners (no really they are) the absorb EVERYTHING around them, they soak it up like a sponge and remember it for a looooooooooong time.

We cannot continue to use The First Amendment as a way to back up our hurtful words, we, as adults simply need to learn how to be more respectful of each other



Sometimes I am just blah….

Ever had one of those days (or a period of days) where you are just “Blah” where you are not really sick but at the same time you don’t feel like doing much, and I don’t mean putting off house work for the mere reasoning that you just don’t want to do it, you are just blah, where your body is telling you “Woah slow down we are going WAY to fast these days” well that has been me the last two days. With summer winding down and fall right around the corner (literally today is the last official day of summer) and having been on the go since it feels like May, I think my body finally yelled at me and said “YOU NEED TO STOP AND SLOW DOWN NOW!” so I did.


I kept trying to find excuses for my laziness, when in reality, I was not and am not being lazy, I am simply listening to my body, so what if it is 2:30pm, I have half eaten hot dog from lunch on the TV tray next to me and I still have yet to get dressed( though I will I need to go to the store and while I am not above wearing pajamas to run a couple of errands, wearing adult Eeroye footie pajamas is pushing it) All of this is okay with me, tomorrow I will go back to work and so will start my weekly routine, I will go back feeling refreshed and recharged witch will benefit not only me, but my co-workers and the residents I help care for.


So remember this, if you have had a busy period in your life like have, and you all of the sudden find your self in one of these “blah” moods, if you can, for as long as you can, plop your self on down on your couch or in your bed, watch some good TV have some good junk food and just do what makes you happy, its amazing what a little bit of me time can do for you.

It’s Okay With Me If You Say “I am A Little OCD” but……..

If you must utter the words “I am a little OCD” even if you do not have a formal diagnosis in hand, that is fine, I will not be offended, however, let me inform you on what it is really like to have Obsessive Compulsion Disorder, O.C.D  Those of us who truly suffer from it (as in we have to be on medication and/or be in therapy  for it,) it truly is a compulsion, the things we do, we have to do, to us it is as necessary as breathing, so when you see us behaving oddly or we lose our cool because things are not exactly the way we want them, please know its because we have reached a level of frustration. As hard as it is for you to understand our little idiocracies it is equally as hard for us to understand why you “The outsider” just don’t get it, because in our mind (witch we have a hard time escaping, harder then most) it just seems so logical, arguing with us does not help. Oh and telling us to calm down or “Its not that big of a deal” yeah, not a smart move


Believe it or not we are good problem solvers, just not when we are surrounded by chaos and have to many problems to solve, we really need to remove our self’s from the situation take some time and come back with a clear mind. I try to be as open as possible, I try to do things in a way that seems more effective, but I can guarantee you when I tell you I have to do things a certain way, its because I have tried every other way I could possibly think of, and they way I am going it is the most logical to me, does not matter if it makes sense to you, so long as it does not effect you, just move on, there are bigger fish to fry.


The one area I have the greatest issue with my O.C.D is work, mainly because people do not pay attention and I am constantly having to move things around to make my work more effective, I have come to find most of the time when I do these things my co-workers says “Oh that makes sense like that” but because for them it is not absolutely nesseacary to have it that way, it does not stay that way


The Take Away:

Obsessive Compulsion Disorder, O.C.D., is a real illness with real cause and effects, do not simply brush it off when someone comes to you says they have been diagnosed by a doctor to have had OCD, if you do not believe in mental disorders, that is fine, that is your right, however it is equally my right TO believe in them so do not try to push your beliefs on me, it is not going to help. and if you notice a co-worker, friend or family member showing signs of OCD just leave them be, don’t push them to go to a doctor or try to stop them from what they are doing, remember, its compulsion, its something we have to do, the more you stop us, the more frustrated we are going to get and in the end we are going to need to do it any way. Also wait for the person to come to you to admit they have a problem or to say they are getting professional help, whatever the situation and whatever your personal beliefs, support them, support what they are doing. Hard as it maybe, its the best thing you can do for them.










Health Care and Compassion Go Hand In Hand

When I first started this blog I was not sure where I wanted to take, it, in the original draft. I realized, I was just rambling. well tonight after working I am more then ready to write this blog, I have collected my thoughts and am now ready  to put pen to paper and say what I believe is necessary to work in the health care field.

I work with the elderly when working in an assisted living home, nursing home or skilled nursing home you are there to serve them what ever they want, if you have available you give to them. Harsh as it may seem I do not care how big of an inconvenience it is you, you do what ever you can to make there lives as comfortable as possible, if you do not want to truly make a difference in people’s life’s make their road a bit easier, and perhaps more fun to travel, if you are in this merely for the money, or because generation upon generations of family members have done or because you don’t know what else to do, please take your time and consider all that is required of you to be in healthcare.


Weekends, holidays, time with family, that is hard to come by, breaks, eating regular food, good, luck, heck your lucky to be sitting down when your eating. I will admit, I am not a Nurse or even a nurse’s aid, I am in dietary to any one reading this that maybe in nursing and think we do not play an important roll. remember you may give RX medication but food and the conversation that goes with it  is just as important.


Now lets talk about next level of some what intensive care of medicine, the hospital setting, and its most vulnerable of patients, kids. I have had experiences on both sides, as a patient and as a care giver. As a child, it seemed like I was in and out of the hospital to the point that I thought it was a normal part of childhood,  by the time I was 9 years old I had had two eye surgeries, two bladder series two sets of tubes put in (and taken out) tonsils taken out kidney stones taken out that is a total of 8 surgeries by age 9.  Later on I would go back to the same hospital where I had so many of my surgeries to work in the kitchen on the patient tray line, but now it has a wonderful children’s hospital built onto the main hospital. I no longer work at the hospital, but there is one day I will never forget, Christmas Eve one year I decided to wear my Santa hat while delivering trays, I brought  some cookies to a kid in the pediatric Oncology unite wearing the hat, I thought that little boy was going to jump right out of his bed when he saw me coming, as I walked away I heard him say “Mommy Santa brought me cookies” that was at least eight years ago, and to this day I still smile when I think of that memory.


Here is what I am getting at, health care is not for the faint of heart, there is a lot of work, blood sweat and tears that goes into it.



I Wonder……..



independence_day-9117As we approach this Independence Day Weekend, I wonder if this is the country our Founding Fathers envisioned all those years ago. Where we use our freedom of speech not only to let our opinions be known, but to also hurt and disrespect others, often times combining these two actions. I wonder if they would be okay with how we disrespect the leaders of this great country of ours.

All those years ago before there were defined cities, or even defined states, before there were boarders, when they fought so hard for our Independence from France. As they wrote the Declaration Of Independence, and those Amendments that we hold so dear and use on daily basis…….. I wonder what they would think of this country as it stands today, where deadly shoot outs have become the norm, where people can still be discriminated against due to race, religion, sexual orientation, gender identification, disability, income status, and/or country of origin.

Its odd how we complain about the selection of Presidential candidates we have to choose from, when most people in other countries would be thrilled and the mere idea that they would have a say in who ran their country.

People say we are loosing our freedom, thats odd because last I checked, we can worship witch ever religion and/ or spiritual belief we choose to. We can (legally) love whoever we want. Women are allowed to go to school, have jobs, provide for their families fight in wars. We as women can also serve our country as a Firefighter, EMT, or Police Officer. We can vote, drive and a variety of other things that women in most other countries can only dream of.

This is far from the country I wanted for my two precious nieces, who are still to young, innocent and inexperienced to know the true dangers this world holds, they are still dreamers, and believers of good, and disbelievers of evil. The truth will be revealed in due time to them, but until then and beyond, and I am only speaking for myself, they will have a believer in their lives, someone who supports their every dream, hope and aspiration.

This Blog has gone on longer then I anticipated but now that it is done, I am content with what I wrote. Thank You For Reading, Happy Independence Day.

To All of those who serve in The Mariners, Army, Navy, Airforce, As Police Officers, Fire Fighters, and EMT’s thank you for keeping us happy, healthy and safe.




Dear Facebook/Twitter Users, Liking, RTing Sharing Does NOTHING

It seems everyday I get onto Facebook and there are posts about how we need to treat our Veterans better or how we need to put an end to Child abuse, cancer, diabetes and numerous other medical conditions, well I got news for all of you who Like Share and Comment on these posts(I am including my self here) that does absolutely NOTHING. Do you honestly think our leaders are siting around on Facebook and twitter waiting in anticipation for these posts, no, if you want action get off of Facebook and Twitter get into your word processor and write letter(s) to our leaders.


If you want to go the digital rout, fine, e-mail, find the Facebook pages, but for the love of God don’t sit there and think that “Sharing” a post is going to make a difference, sure it makes the rest of us think, but it does very little in form of action. Its called Social Media for a reason you can do a lot more with Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, and Periscope then just sharing your day to day life. Okay, this rant, for now is done.

Elderly Care

I have been working at a local assisted living home for almost 7 years, there are only 4 residents that are there now that were there when I first started. When you choose to work with the elderly you are saying that you will care for them as if they were family, witch after a while becomes easier and easier because soon they become your family and you theirs.


Working with seniors is unlike any other job you have had,or will have in future. Depending on the type of care facility (that sound infinitely better then a “Home”) these people rely on you for just about everything. Its important to be compassionate, empathetic and understanding of each individual and understand things from his or her point of view. You also have to incorporate what the family wants and of course what is good for them in the long run, if you have a resident who is diabetic, for instance, it does not matter how much ice cream he or she wants, it is your responsibility limit it, and after time, you will learn how to best approach these kinds of circumstances.


As I said in the paragraph above there are many people’s feelings and views to consider when working with the elderly, actually in health care period. but at the end of the day you are there to do what’s best for the resident, witch can be easier said then done. You have residents who comply with every guideline you lay out for them, they may not like it but they know its in their best interest. Much like working with children, you just have to pick your battles


Remember you are working in these people’s homes, it can be easy to get the lines blurred  between what you consider work and what they call home, treat them with the respect and dignity they deserve, I have been working since I graduated high school well over ten years ago and this is by far the most rewarding job I have ever had. Yes I have days where I just want to scream, walk out the building and never come back again but I can count those kind of days over the last 7 years on one hand.