Negative Nellies

If there is one thing that I absolutely can’t stand, it’s people who are determined to find the negative in even the happiest of situations. We have all seen them, a news post of something that most people would get joy out of, and there amongst the happy comments is one or more comments from people who just refuse to be happy.

Perhaps these people had a rough childhood, or just a bad life, well guess what, as bad as you have there is someone out there that has it even worse. I used to work at a local hospital, working in the kitchen, part of my job was to take the patient trays to the room, my favorite place to go was the Children’s Hospital, specifically the Oncology unite, I would walk into a room and these little munchkins would be hooked up to all sorts of machines and yet still be thrilled to see you, they were always happy. In my three years there, never did I ever encounter a child that was sad, they were always happy and always had a positive out look.

Ten minutes later I could be delivering a tray to an adult who just had surgery, knew that they were going to be fine, knew that they were going to be able to get out of the hospital in a few days, and live the rest of their life, and they would be grouchy and just plain mean, now I know that being in the hospital is no fun, I spent a lot of time in the hospital growing up. But come on, if you know you are going to get out of there, whats to be so negitive about?


So here is what I am trying to get across in this rambling dialog, be happy, life is to short to be anything but.


The Bachelorette 2013





Well here we are, less then two weeks away from the season premiere of the new Bachelorette. We all remember Desiree getting let go by then Bachelor Sean Lowe earlier this year, Sean found his dream love in Catherine, now it’s time for Desiree to find hers.

The photos of the men have been released by ABC, but I am not of those people who looks at the pics, I skim the bio’s just to see if any one is from my neck of the woods, nor do I read the spoilers, I know where/who posts those, so during the season I just steer clear of said websites to avoid any temptation to look at spoilers. I like to be surprised.

I think America is going to be able to relate to Desiree, what she went through as a child is something most American’s are going through now, and that is tough economic times. However, Desiree has created quite the life for her self. it would have been easy for her to lean on her past as if it were a crutch, a reason to not try, not only did she try, she succeeded, that speak volumes to the environment her parents created for her growing up. I can’t wait to see how this season goes : )

Here are some facts

People both for and against further gun control in this country seem to like their numbers, I am one of those people. I am not going to tell you right out what side of the debate I am on, just read this blog and you will know.

11, 493 people where killed by guns in The United States last year, that is just one year, but the 11,493 is not the only number we need to think about, there many many more lives effect, the family, and friends of the victims. People lost their mothers, fathers, brothers, sister, cousins, aunts, uncles, nieces nephews, sons and daughters. the number of lives effected by these senseless tragedies is countless, you want to protect your self? Great go out get some pepper spray, take some self defense classes be aware of your surroundings.

I still believe we have the right to bare arms, but do we really need these assault riffles, let me put emphasis on the word NEED we learn in kindergarten the difference between NEED and WANT, that lesson does not seem to stick for long.

From one generation to the next

Tonight during a weekly Skype chat with my sister and three year old niece, Malia, my niece, posed us (me, my mom, and dad) for a picture, in the past she has just wanted to take our picture, did not matter how we looked but tonight she told us how to pose. Immediately memories of my grandfather posing our family for our annual Christmas Dinner Photo came flooding back.  I told Malia that her Great-Grandfather would be proud of her, she had no idea who or what I was talking about. Malia Sadly will never know her Maternal Great grandparents, expect through the stories she hears from the family, my grandfather passed away 5 years ago (two years before Malia appeared on the scene) and while my grandmother was still around during the first year or so of her life, they never met, my grandmother saw pictures of Malia and Malia is now getting to see pictures of her Great-Grandmother, but there is still a big part of me that wishes they could have met in person, even if it was only once, and even if Malia would have had no memory of it, I cherished seeing my grandparents with my cousins kids, and am saddened by the fact that Malia and any children after her will never know their loving embrace.

My Grandfather, normally a very serious man, seemed become a kid again when he was around the younger members of our family, passing down invaluable lessons, the importance of family and what it means to be a member of a family.

My Grandmother was the typical grandmother, funny, caring, and one heck of a cook/baker, something that all of us grandchildren inherited. While I tend to lean more to the baking side of things, my sister and cousin have done an amazing job of keeping her long loved family recipes alive and going, she’d be proud of all the we are continuing to do to carry on her legacy.

I can’t wait to one day tell Malia about her wonderful Great Grandparents that once were.

A Letter to an Ignorant Society

In the last two weeks we have seen a small bakery in Oregon refuse service to a same-sex couple, a young boy beaten so bad he had to be put into a medically induced coma, and a dog who was put on “Death Row” for defending him self (the last of these stories is not as popular as the first two)

The bakery in Oregon, the owner(s) of witch use the flimsy “1st Amendment Right” card refused to make a wedding cake for a same sex couple, has now put out a statement the it was not their intention to hurt or offend any one. I am sorry but exactly what was his intention when he refused service to some one because of their sexual orientation did he think “Oh I probably just made this couple feel so good, i am sure they will be back again” Make no mistake getting people to see gay couples in the same light as male-female couples is this generation’s civil rights movement

Update, After hearing about the couple Duff Goldmen (Best Know for his Food Network Show “Ace Of Cakes” offered to make a wedding cake for this couple, proving that there is still good in this world.–abc-news-savings-and-investment.html

We Also learned this week that boy who was in a school yard fight, witch resulted in a bullies beating him to the point of him having a concussion, his parents took him to their local ER where he was treated and released but in the following days, the victim’s father  realized that his son was not him self, sleeping a lot moody, a bit angry and not eating much, he also started to have violent seizures and needed be hospitalized and put into a medically induced coma where he has remained for the last two weeks.

Update, it was reported this morning (March 3rd, 2013) that the victim of this attack was taken off life support, and passed, just one day after turning 12 years old. Let this be a reminder that something needs to be done about the bullying epidemic in this country

The last story is not nearly as public as the first two but is still just as horrible. A Service Dog named “Dutch” was put on “Death Row” after biting a person who admitted to severely beating the dog. I got an e-mail asking me to sign a petition to save Dutch. I felt it was a civil injustice to punish this dog for defending him self, if a human defended them self’s would we sentence them to death? I think not.

I feel that we are living in an ignorant/ “Sweep it under the rug and it will go away” Society, ignoring these issues that are an every day happening in Society is not going to make them go away, they have to be dealt with they have to be brought to light, people have to talk about them, be open minded to others’ feelings and way of life, though I will not hold my breath, look at how long it took us to recognize African/American’s as equals there is still room for much improvement for equal pay for women (meaning we make as much as our male counterparts)

The Bachelorette, Ashley and J.P.’s Wedding

article-0-1666C281000005DC-162_634x740  ashley-hebert-2-300 article-0-1666C281000005DC-162_634x740 article-0-1666C136000005DC-359_634x733 article-0-1666C1E8000005DC-569_634x396

How is it that when you are watching a wedding on T.V. between two people you have never met and/or seen before, except for having seen them on T.V . you feel as though you have known them for a life time? I do not know the answer to that question, but I do know the experience as I have just lived it.  Typically when the show “The Bachelor” and “Bachelorette” is brought up in conversation the conversation that follows might be filled with talk of a break up or some other form of drama. Well not tonight, tonight we got to focus on Love, a relationship, something I have no doubt(nor have I ever) will last a life time.  Now in the event that you , A) been living under a rock or,  B) are just not that into reality TV. Tonight for the third time we witnessed a Television wedding between two people who met, dated, fell in love and got engaged on National T.V. just over a year and half ago.

Ashley Hebert (oops sorry now, Rosenbaum) and J.P. Joined in the union of Marriage back on December 1st, 2012, but we got to witness it tonight for our self’s. The two hour special seem to fly by, it was so great getting to see how this couple has evolved, in many ways they have not changed, they still get absolutely giddy around each other. They are a very touchy couple, always connected physically in some way, I absolutely love seeing this between two loving caring people. Their families seem just as genuine, loving, caring and supportive of the relationship as Ashley and J.P. are of each other.

“There are a lot of things that the brain does not understand, but the heart feels”

All to often in life we try to explain the unexplainable the above quote, spoken by Ashley Sunday night during the show, echos something i have to come believe and that is, just because there is a reason for everything does not mean we will always know said reason, there are times that the reason comes from a greater power then us, so much greater, that we struggle to find the words to describe it. I believe True Love is one of those things we cannot really explain, it just is, and when we finally except that, everything becomes clear.

In closing I want to thank Ashley and J.P. for letting their supporters in on their fun day, they did not have to, but they wanted to, they wanted their fans to seen another step in this romantic love story.

In The Arms Of The Angels

Can’t really wrap my brain around the tragedy that has taken place today in Newtown, CT, 20 innocent lives lost, that 20 children who will never go to College, get married, have a family, have a job. 80 Parents who are now grieving the loss of their children whom they just saw this morning, countless aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers, sisters, friends, schoolmates, whose lives will never be the same. Innocence of all the young victims is gone. 


Many have asked, what it would take to get sticker/better gun policies in this country, looks like we have found an answer, I do not, repeat DO NOT think the answer is to take away guns from every single person in this country who has one, a common kitchen knife could kill just as easily, why punish responsible gun owners out there (and they are out there I know some of them) its not fair to take theirs away just because there are senseless morons running around out there, something else has to be done to make sure these deadly weapons do not end up in the wrong hands. I do not know what to do any better then others in America, when President Obama and his Congress members, OUR congress members work to improve gun laws, instead of bashing them because they are not doing what WE think they should be doing, lets support them.